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Woo wee, this is a HUGE struggle for me in my life. How hard or easy is it to have compassion for people versus judgment? HARD! I teeter on that fine line between judgment and correction every day with students, fellow colleagues, and my family. I'm very ACT RIGHT...I want people at work to have common sense, I want students to not wear hoodies like they're not supposed to, I want new teachers to get a clue about classroom management, I want my family to act "right" according to me. Yes, not everyone will do what I want them to do all the time. I do feel people have "gotten away" with deviant or bad behavior because our society allows "grace" or a lax in correction because we don't want to hurt feelings or we're allowing people to be their individual self. They're mistaking correction for judgment especially the younger generation. Now, I sound like an old person. I have empathy for many things in peoples' lives, but I'm still going to say "straighten up" if you're not making good decisions. I don't ever feel like I'm better than other people. I just feel like without corrective guidance, people will do what they want and that's not always what they should be doing. Well, then people say, what makes you the judge of what I should be doing? It's used as a crutch now..a "gaslight answer" so to speak. There are so many students that do not like me correcting them at the high school. "You're mean, Miss." I get that a lot. No, I'm nice. The world is mean, and listen to me because I'm always going to pour into you what will make you successful in the world. That's my job. I want every kid to leave our school with knowledge in academics, gumption and follow-through skills, financial awareness, and spiritual health. My compassion for these students to excel in life worries me so much for when they leave our bubble. I'm so scared for them. I cry at graduation every time. 30 years now! Yes, I'm sad to see them go, but I'm mostly stressed about the world they're jumping into. Part of me thinks I need more humility and grace for people and then I think maybe I just need to have more faith. It's such a struggle for me and I've made my body sick over the years of worry.

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